Darling bride-to-be, I’ve helped plan dozens of ceremonies and receptions over the years and have studied weddings near-obsessively for over a decade - but when my guy proposed, everything I’d learned flew right out the window! If you’re like me and feel like a kindergartener taking a college-level course as wedding information is thrown at you from all sides, make sure to read on for bridal sins to (try really hard to) not commit!
It’s easy to get caught up in the glow of being newly engaged and somehow forget the world exists every time you catch a glint of diamond shine, but in the hopes of not having your bridesmaids walking on eggshells around you (Bridezilla, anyone?), the following may help!
Bridal Sin #1: We touched on this in our discussion about how to keep your bridesmaids happy, but it’s worth being reiterated: make an effort to talk about things unrelated to your wedding!
You may have fifty million wedding thoughts running through your head and it helps to talk it out, but as a soon-to-be Mrs. myself, I can see my bridesmaid’s eyes get a little glazed around the 90-second mark when I haven’t paused for a breath as I rant about the wedding photographer who’s already booked for my big day. Make sure you keep in touch with what is happening in your bridesmaids lives and support them as they support you!
Bridal Sin #2: Before taking that argument with your mother about seating arrangements to the next level – put yourself in her shoes. While you may be gleefully rejoicing over your soon-to-be new last name or the upcoming honeymoon, it’s important to remember that your wedding is a day of change and transition for more than just you and your groom.
You may find one (or both) of your parents striking out, starting silly fights over nothing, or stepping away from helping with wedding plans. Start an open conversation about how they feel and try to not be hurt or offended if they say they’re afraid of losing you…honesty is always preferred over silence or shouting matches! If your family is naturally filled with strong and silent types, don’t push it. Just know for yourself that you have their support and love and radiate that back to them.
Bridal Sin #3: Becoming a diva-fied Bridezillas is such an epidemic – it’s become a reality TV show! Your wedding is YOUR day, bride, no ifs, ands, or buts about it…but if you realize family and friends are tiptoeing around you or there’s a full-blown war with your mother-in-law over hors d’oeuvres – you may want to take a step back and look at your behavior since beginning wedding planning.
More often than not, a bride doesn’t demand more attention, more gifts, more, more, more, “just because”. Sometimes, wary of friendships changing after vows are shared, a bride may become more forceful in an attempt to pull friends closer. Take a deep breath, darling bride, because this plan will cause nothing but resentment between you and your best girls. Instead of demanding more for yourself, give of yourself and know that time and love shared with those you care for does nothing but come back to you tenfold.
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