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Wedding Invitations Addressing Etiquette, Part 1

As promised earlier in the week while discussing wedding invitation wording, read on as we discuss how to list names and address your wedding invitations! From inviting a Colonel in the military to noting that a set of divorced parents are hosting the ceremony together, some seemingly sticky predicaments have easy solutions by simply finding the format that best fits your situation.

To begin, start with the names of those issuing the invitation – traditionally the bride’s parents. Evolving family structures and financial dynamics often make this the trickiest part of the process.

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Most married couples follow the standard format of:

Mr. and Mrs. Anthony Michael Johnson

If the couple issuing the invitation has different surnames, however, an “and” is to join them:

Ms. Jessica Leann Smith and Mr. Anthony Michael Johnson

If the bride and groom are hosting on their own, omit the first line, and jump to:

Together with their families
Miss Elizabeth Marie Smith and Mr. Gerald Joseph Johnson…

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If the bride’s parents are divorced but hosting the wedding together, list the names of the bride’s parents at the top of the invitation. The bride’s mother’s name should be on the first line and her father’s on the line beneath it – do not separate the lines with “and.” If the bride’s mother has not remarried, use “Mrs.” followed by her first name, maiden name, and married name.

Mrs. Jessica Johnson Smith
Mr. and Mrs. Joshua Allen Smith
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Elizabeth Marie Smith

If a set of divorced parents have remarried, you must first note that, traditionally, only the parents’ names appear on the invitation. That said, if you would like to include your step-parents, it’s perfectly acceptable to list them. Place your mother’s (and her husband, if she’s remarried) first name and include your last name.

Mr. and Mrs. Joshua Allen Smith Mr. and Mrs. Nolan Andrew Peters
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Elizabeth Marie Smith

While it is not traditional to include a deceased parent, many brides and grooms feel strongly about doing so. This wording should make it clear that the deceased parent is not issuing the invitation, and it should be noted that courtesy titles may be awkward and are to be omitted. If one parent is still living, that parent should issue the invitation. If your mother has not remarried, place “Mrs.” before her name.

The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of  Elizabeth Marie Smith
daughter of Anthony Johnson and the late Jessica Smith to
Gerald Joseph Johnson…

If neither of parents are alive, the invitation may be issued by the bride and groom or other relatives, such as grandparents – in which case, you should handle it as you would divorced parents who have remarried:

Miss Elizabeth Marie Smith and Mr. Gerald Joseph Johnson request the honor
of your presence at their marriage…

If the bride has been married before, and her parents are issuing the invitation, they should include your married name:

Mr. and Mrs. Joshua Allen Smith request the honor of your presence at
the marriage of their daughter Elizabeth Marie Robertson

Or, in the same situation, if the bride and groom are issuing the the invitation themselves, it is to read as:

Elizabeth Marie Robertson and Gerald Joseph Johnson request the honor of
your presence at their marriage

What’s a bride to do if her parents are hosting – but your groom wants to include his parents on the invitation? Or, what if you would like guests to contribute to a charity rather than give gifts? There are too many scenarios for one post alone, bride-to-be! Read on next week as we answer the above questions…and more!

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Let Your Personality Shine Through Your Wedding Cake Flavor!

Wedding cakes are composed of the base cake, filling, and frosting – but there are many wedding cake flavor profiles available to add a dash of personality to your big day! Request a cake lining, a thin layer of citrus curd or fruit preserve spread on the cake base, or an addition of fresh fruits, nuts, or candies for a bite of texture!

Looking for something special, but aren’t in love with either of those ideas? Request a different taste for each separate cake tier; while chocolate, vanilla, lemon, and red velvet still hold the top spots, the latest trend is for mouth-watering cake flavors like passionfruit and mango! Separate your tiers with pillars or by placing them at cascading heights on your dessert table.

Can’t decide what flavor – or flavors – to offer your wedding guests? The New York Magazine prepared a list of the Top Ten Most Requested Cake Combos, to include:

1. Chocolate devil’s food cake and vanilla buttercream
2. Chocolate devil’s food cake, vanilla buttercream, and raspberries
 Yellow butter cake and chocolate buttercream and/or chocolate ganache
 Lemon cake, lemon curd, and vanilla buttercream
 Chocolate devil’s food cake, chocolate ganache, and praline buttercream
6. White cake, lemon buttercream, and raspberries
 Hazelnut-almond cake, chocolate ganache, and raspberries
 Coconut cake and lime buttercream
 Banana cake and chocolate buttercream
Chocolate-almond cake, chocolate ganache, and mocha buttercream

Looking for more creative flavor ideas? Sweet Art Wedding Cakes and Weddings by Lilly both offer lists of interesting wedding cake flavors! Then, after you have your dream cake in mind, look into WedAlert’s list of wedding bakeries in your area…many WedAlert bakers offer specials just for WA readers!

Find further wedding inspiration by following my Pinterest and WedAlert’s Pinterest! You’ll find boards with wedding ideas ranging from seating arrangements to knowing the questions to ask each vendor!

How To Take The Perfect First Kiss Photo credit to Andrea Eppolito Events

Top 4 Tips For A Perfect First Kiss Photo

Some say the best part of a wedding is the groom’s face when he sees his bride for the first time, others say it’s the smiling-through-tears father giving away his little girl; truth is, soon-to-be Mrs., there isn’t a single part of a wedding ceremony that is more beautiful than the next!

Be it a sandy beach or a traditional chapel, from your first step down that aisle to the final smile as you say “I do”, weddings stand tall as an inspiration for all who have begun to doubt love’s presence in the world, and it’s only suiting that such a day be capped off with a “awww”-worthy first kiss!

Question of the hour, bride-to-be: How does one pull off a first kiss without seeing this face?

Your first kiss as husband and wife confirms your vows and seals the deal…here’s a couple of hints to take the perfect photo during that beautiful moment!

  • -  When the minister says, “You may now kiss the bride”, don’t look at anyone but your groom
  • -  Smile and lean in for the initial contact
  • -  Give your photographer (and guests!) more than just a split-second peck to swoon over (studies show that roughly 4 seconds is average and just right)
  • -  Smile while slowly pulling away and keep your eyes fixed on your groom while you’re announced to your guests as man and wife

Of course, though I doubt it needs said, try not to be too obvious with any amount of tongue involved…Grandma doesn’t need to see that!

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Caring for Fresh Wedding Flowers Anemones credit to Sweet Pea Flowers of Colorado

Caring For Fresh Wedding Flowers: Anemones

White anemones are the prize in many wedding flower arrangements, bridal bouquets, and table centerpieces! While purchasing fresh anemones to create your own DIY wedding flower arrangements is a perfect way to both maximize your wedding flower budget and bring a personal touch to your wedding decor, you want to be sure to give your anemones the proper care and attention so that they will be fresh and beautiful throughout your ceremony and reception.

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Christie O. at MountainSide Bride (previously known as Hindsight Bride) brings us tips from Nicole Morgan at Whole Blossoms to help you care for your fresh wedding flowers!

  • -  Anemones are well known for appearing dehydrated soon after harvest; if you purchase your flowers from a wholesaler, trim at the bottom as soon as possible to help unclog any blocked stems. Cut stems under a running faucet and at an angle to draw water up through the stem and provide for a greater drinking area.
  • -  Add a few packets of floral preservative to your water to help your flowers bloom if closed (table sugar can also be used as a substitute if flower food is unavailable); the general rule is to use 1 tablespoon for floral preservative or sugar for every quart of water. A few drops of lemon juice can also be added to your water to act as a natural disinfectant to help ward off bacteria.
  • -  Store blooms in a cool room. 48 hours before your wedding, consider leaving your anemones in a warm room or sunlight for a few hours to help open any closed blooms. Any blooms that are already left open can be left in a cool room away from sunlight. Your water should be changed out every other day to help promote vase life.
  • -  On the day prior to your wedding, choose your best looking anemones to create your bouquet. As a tip, order extra stems up-front to afford you the luxury of picking your most flawless looking flowers. With bouquet created, use a tall glass or vase to keep your bouquet hydrated until the day of your wedding. A cooler can also be used at this stage to help preserve your bouquet until the following day.

pink anemones

anemone wedding flowers

DIY flowers

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Wedding Invitations Wording

While preparing to invite family and friends to your big day, proper etiquette notes that the correct wedding invitation wording must be used. There are customary elements to the typical wedding invitation: the host line, request line, bride and groom line, date and time line, reception line, and RSVP line.

That said, Jerome Brownstein, engraving consultant at Ross-Cook Engraving in NYC notes, “The trend is that you do whatever makes good etiquette sense and makes you feel good.” So, even though every wedding invitation should have the above listed lines, they can be worded and arranged in countless ways to reflect the style of your occasion!

informal wedding invitation

If looking to stay traditional and formal, use both courtesy lines (Mr., Mrs., etc.) and middle names; when using titles other than Mr. and Mrs., spell them out completely, such as: Doctor and Mrs. Johnson or Doctor Anna Marie Smith and Mr. Joseph Timothy Smith.

For wedding invitations a little less formal, omit courtesy titles and middles names and list the first names of all married women. This format can help avoid potential awkwardness, as in the case of a deceased parent.

formal wedding invitation

Two of the more traditional phrases help to indicate if your wedding ceremony will be held in a house of worship or not. At a place of worship, use the invitation wording: ‘Request the honor of your presence,’ where informal ceremonies use the wording: ‘Would be delighted by your presence at the marriage of their children’.

It’s traditional not to include street addresses for houses of worship or well-known locations, but this is becoming more and more less common. If you do plan to include a street address, zip codes are not needed.

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As the bride and groom are the stars of the wedding invitation, their names are to be set apart on separate lines. The preposition linking them goes on its own line: traditional American formatting uses the word ‘to’ while some Jewish formats use the word ‘and’.

Don’t worry about marking the time as a.m. or p.m. unless the wedding will be held between the hours of 8-10 in the morning or evening. The year is traditionally omitted as well, but is sometimes included for the keepsake value alone.

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More contemporary wedding invitations can showcase the RSVP line on the in the lower left-hand corner and can include the wedding website, or mailing address, phone number, or email address to respond to. Traditionally, however, RSVP cards are sent out with a fill-in-the-blank version providing the first letter of Mr. or Mrs. for guests to complete and mail in.

Not planning to include a full meal? Use phrasing like “afterwards for cocktails” instead of the classic “at the reception” as a courtesy to your guests. To stress the importance of the style of dress your family and friends choose for your big day – black tie or casual attire, for instance – place that information in the lower right corner or on a separate reception card.

formal wedding invitation

As always, the only true “firm” wedding invitation rule is to never list your registry information anywhere – even on a separate insert! Come back later this week for our discussion about how to list names on your wedding invitations; from inviting a Colonel in the military to a noting that a set of divorced parents are hosting the ceremony together.

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asian inspired wedding invitation

yellow wedding color palette

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southern wedding invitation

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Tips For Hosting An Intimate Wedding

Even with home values going up and unemployment rates going down, for many brides, the recent economic chaos has made money a touch tighter than usual…this doesn’t mean, however, that your wedding ceremony needs to be put on hold – instead, look into hosting an intimate wedding! Tough economy or not, people still fall in love, men still propose, and women still dream about their day!

Limited budgets may make your ceremony smaller than your wild 500-guests-in-a-cathedral-chapel dreams, but take it as an opportunity to be more creative with your planning! Instead of inviting 200 people, talk with your groom and invite twenty cherished guests; a smaller number of wedding guests who are truly important to you makes intimate weddings feel that much more special.

Beach Wedding

Where to get married is always a big question in your wedding planning, and for smaller, intimate weddings – it can be an even greater challenge. If the space is too large – your small wedding party may look overwhelmed by their grandiose surroundings…but if it’s too small, you and your guests may feel cramped. How’s a soon-to-be Mrs. to solve this problem?

Luckily, there is an incredible online resource via Intimate Weddings. At Intimate Weddings you’ll find listings for intimate venues thorough out the United States and beautiful wedding inspiration specific to intimate weddings.

Check out the below inspiration showcasing a few of the featured venues on Intimate Weddings!

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Lakeside Wedding

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Just Married Sign

Night Wedding Photos

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Wedding Cake Cutting Songs

There will be many sweet moments during your wedding ceremony and reception, darling bride-to-be, from seeing your groom smile as you walk down the altar to sharing your heartfelt vows, but we all know that the sweetest moment in every wedding is the cake cutting…and tasting!

Play up the sweet theme with ‘Ice Cream’ by Sarah McLachlan, have a little fun with any song by Cake (har har), or opt for a more traditional feel with ‘Everlasting Love’ by Natalie Cole!

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Chat with your handsome fella and decide whether your cake cutting will be properly (read: cleanly) sliced – or if he has plans to swipe your face with a dab of icing! The music chosen to play during your cake cutting tells as much about the your personality as the wedding cake flavor!

Worried about your groom smooshing that delicious slice of wedding cake into your perfectly-made face? This topic is definitely a controversial one…some brides find it to be completely disrespectful, other brides think the first set of brides need to loosen up, and a third contingent are simply concerned about the stains that could be left on a very expensive dress…join in the conversation here!

Looking for more cake cutting wedding songs? Head over to WedAlert’s wedding song directory! Follow my Pinterest and WedAlert’s Pinterest for wedding ideas ranging from wedding timelines to planning a destination ceremony!


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Victor Hugo once said, “The power of a glance has been so much abused in love stories, that it has come to be disbelieved in. Few people dare now to say that two beings have fallen in love because they have looked at each other. Yet it is in this way that love begins, and in this way only.” Meeting (officially) in August 2012 and becoming engaged in December of the same year, the love between Nikki and Kevin is powerfully evident! As Nikki noted in their wedding website, “While most people remember 12/21/12 as the day that the world was supposed to end, I will forever remember it as the day my life was just beginning.”

The WedAlert family joins in with all those reading this post in wishing Nikki and Kevin the very best on their big day, in their lives together, and on their Big Island honeymoon!

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Cheesecake Wedding Cakes

Maybe you’re like me, soon-to-be Mrs., and a cheesecake wedding cake wasn’t your first thought when considering different cake designs to bring to your baker’s attention…but don’t shy away too quickly! Wedding cakes come in many shapes, sizes, and flavors, and when deciding what kind of cake to design – you need to first evaluate its purpose. Is it your primary decoration for your reception? If so, bigger is better! If, however, your plan is to have the most delicious and memorable wedding cake your guests have ever tasted – look into gorgeous cheesecake wedding cakes!

As seen on to M&C Studio

Cheesecake wedding cakes don’t have to be the single-layer of deliciousness we know from Momma’s kitchen! There are just as many decorative options as you can get with a regular flour cake, but there’s an added bonus, bride-to-be: it’s cheesecake! You can have your baker stack your cheesecake wedding cake, purchase a multi-tiered cake stand to show off the individual layers, or read up on making each layer a different flavor!

Cheesecake wedding cakes also lend themselves perfectly to smaller, individually-sized cakes. Whether baked in a canning jar and served at an outdoor summer wedding or topped with caramel and confectionery sugar for a winter ceremony, this is an idea that can’t go wrong!

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Photo credit to Aura Marzouk

As seen on Fish Out of Water Wedding Planning

Looking for further wedding inspiration, soon-to-be Mrs.? Follow my Pinterest and WedAlert’s Pinterest! You’ll find boards with wedding ideas ranging from finding local wedding cake bakeries to how to easily figure out how many slices of cake will be needed!

Etsy Wedding Invitations

Rustic Wedding Invitations

Rustic wedding invitations can have a modern feel with laser-cut trees, a vintage look with dried flowers and burlap, and can easily showcase the latest wedding trends, like birdcages and touches of lace! Whether your wedding venue is located on a lakefront, a mountainside, or your parent’s backyard, your rustic wedding invitations will be a perfect clue to your guests to not break out the ball gowns and tuxedos!

Rustic Wedding Invitations credit to Laser Creative

The classic rustic ceremony is set at a country estate or in a barn, a setting that can accommodate any season and bring a ‘green’ simplicity to your wedding day; for a barnyard country-themed wedding, look into wedding invitations made with 100% recycled cardstock or woodgrain print. A popular wedding trend that is carrying over into wedding invitations is the addition of succulents; featured in bridal bouquets, wedding cakes, and groomsmen boutonnieres, a show of succulents will quickly tell your family and friends that your wedding will be beautifully eco-friendly!

Are you planning a whimsical wedding in the countryside? Add a woodland charm into your wedding invitations with beautiful ferns and forest animals, like hand-painted deer and owls, or make a large oak tree the focal point of your invitation and carve your initials into the base alongside your grooms to evoke a Southern romance. If you’ll be saying “I do” outdoors, give your rustic wedding invitation a pop of scenery with a natural coloring, tall country grass, or vibrant sunflowers with their heads tilted towards the sun.

Rustic Wedding Invitations as seen on Etsy credit to LoveofCreating



Ferns Wedding Invitation

Letterpress Wedding Invitation

Barnyard Wedding

Heart Carved into Tree Wedding Invitation

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